The article "Americans face unwanted care" (Sept. 18) covers an area with which I am well acquainted, except in my case, my husband's mom died in our home, with hospice care and only comfort and her last few weeks were wonderful for her and us as we could spend quality time, in a comfortable and familiar setting.
As my mother lay dying at 93, her family was in charge! Mom had an advanced directive and my siblings and I had confirmed with her care givers, no extreme measures, comfort only. We were very involved with mom's care prior to this and the staff was very helpful. They asked more than once "Comfort only?" We always agreed!
No one needs to be put through "life-saving or life-prolonging" if only they prepare while they can. Most important, the family must agree totally so there is no wiggle room on the part of the care givers. A friend commented that he was not looking forward to dying in the hospital, all hooked up. I told him you do not need to do that, just take charge.
DOROTHY RAWSON, Kennewick