I was chatting with my daughter about the recent alleged murder of a young mother (Rebeca Vandeventer) by her prior partner (Lawrence Miller). I compared staying in the same apartment like staying in a bird cage and waiting for the fellow to find you in the same spot. Her response: "It isn't fair she should have to move." I tried looking up survival rates for domestic violence victims who move out of state.
The pattern: A woman is with an abusive, verbally threatening person. She leaves him, gets a new boyfriend, maybe even gets a restraining order, and the guy attacks her (often fatally) in her home. I think women need to change tactics. If you are with a guy and fear for your life, safety and the safety of your kids, move. Start a new life in a new town and drop off the grid. Do not stay in the same town, working the same job, living in the same apartment and expect a restraining order to protect you. A solution could be one-time sponsored plane tickets to leave the state after a documented DV incident/restraining order.
It may not be fair, but kids deserve to have their mom.
-- SHELLY HANSEN, West Richland