Fast Focus: 'What can be done to prevent domestic violence?' Have the courage to speak up

September 22, 2013 

This seems an appropriate time to discuss "domestic violence," particularly after reading about a mother being stabbed 30 times by a jealous boyfriend in front of her three children.

How do we stop domestic abuse?

As with any problem, the first step in stopping it is to admit (and realize) we have a problem. Denial, or ignoring a problem, usually makes it worse.

Then, the next step is to talk about it.

Today, we endear those who remain silent. We mustn't ever "whine." However, every tyrant wants his/her victims to remain silent. Calling for help when you are drowning (or being mugged, raped, threatened, etc.) is not the same as "whining," and not something to be ashamed of.

Furthermore, police and other forms of law enforcement depend on "an alert and responsive" public.

In those situations, where three are involved (victim, perpetrator and bystander) often each can end it. Frequently, the victim hopes that by doing nothing, it will stop.

The perpetrator hopes that no one will stop him, or make his/her act/crime known to others.

And the bystander doesn't want to become a victim directly (or indirectly).

They all lack courage, strength and, often, respect and compassion. The "current" victim may lack respect and compassion for the "next" victim.

Finally, there is our "love of power." It is what makes a good sports player, politician, TV/movie/comic book hero, and "a man." But, like many things, it depends on the one who wields it. And, like the bumper sticker says "When the power of love is greater than the love of power, there will be peace on earth."

-- D. L. (ANDY) ANDERSON, Richland

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